Condescending!

Recently on a job I had setup my sound system and lighting where I thought it would be most advantageous.  This because when I had arrived I had no instruction or direction from anyone to do otherwise.  Later, the coordinator arrived (I arrive at least 2 hours in advance, why don't coordinators?) and wanted me to teardown the sound system and re-setup somewhere else leaving the lighting where it was already positioned.  My reply was that, "The lighting had to accompany the sound system since the intelligent dance floor lighting takes electronic cues form the music."

The coordinator then made a very insulting comment that I hear occasionally, "Well, my husband is a DJ (or, my brother-in-law, best friend, etc.) and I know that it can be done!"  My immediate response was, "Oh, so then you know that the DJ industry is an unregulated business where the vast majority of DJs are clueless and uneducated in pro audio, the music industry and business then?"  She then proceeded to give me a dirty look as if her insult was supposed to be overlooked with a smile.

Sorry but this is always such an insult to me and my background especially since she is reinforcing my belief that her husband doesn't know what he is doing, invests in the bare minimum in equipment and doesn't care enough to make the effort to do his job properly.

Again, this is the assumption that I am "just a mere DJ!"  Condescending to say the least.

Needless to say, a new paragraph was added into my contract regarding relocating of equipment when no direction is given in advance.